About a week ago I had a conversation with a male Muslim friend of mine, who is a Dutch Muslim. He’s one of the most intelligent and creative people I have ever met, so I was pretty surprised at our conversation. I asked him what he thought about women leading prayer and his instant reaction was “no!” So I asked why.
He said that as a man, he wouldn’t be able to pray behind a woman because he wouldn’t be able to not check her out. So his reasoning was not based on Qur’an, sunnah, fiqh or even logic. No. It was just as simple as “men cannot control themselves.” EVEN DURING PRAYER.
I asked him what the solution was, then. He said there is no solution: women should just not lead prayer, since there is no way that men would be able to focus. He said he couldn’t even focus when a woman was praying near him (ah yes, hence the partitions, walls, upstairs closets. That explains it!) let alone in front of him.
I’m really pissed. Seriously. What have Muslim men come to? They think its actually okay to use this as an EXCUSE for not letting women do pretty much anything. I mean seriously!
First of all – why is it always assumed women will not get turned on by praying behind a man? Oh right, because men are “visual” and women aren’t. Okay but really. A more logical reason?
Second of all – will women continue to be deprived of things because men can’t control themselves? Then how is Islam ever going to progress?
Third of all – if educated Muslims are making such arguments, I don’t even want to think of all the other ones.
Finally – why can Muslim men NOT control themselves? Why don’t we have these huge problems in other societies?
Note: this doesn’t apply to all Muslim men, there are one or two who aren’t like this. Well maybe five or six.
Okay. Rant over.
I’m going to go find my box of comfort chocolate.