Islam does not allow premarital sex. That’s something that seems fairly obvious, but I couldn’t seem to find a specific verse in the Qur’an dealing with the issue. Some verses talk about marriage and how to propose (2:235); others talk about adultery, but that’s different from premarital sex. There is one verse that says people engaging in adultery and fornication should be flogged (24:2): does fornication refer then to premarital sex?
But then I found this:
The believers must (eventually) win through,-
Those who humble themselves in their prayers;
Who avoid vain talk;
Who are active in deeds of charity;
Who abstain from sex,
Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or whom their right hands possess,- for they are free from blame.
So that’s pretty explicit, unless the translation is weird.
Does anyone know of any hadith about premarital sex?
The reason I’m posting about this is because I’m interested in finding out your opinion on what modern Muslims who can’t marry young should do re. premarital sex. The average age of marriage in Egypt, for example, is over 30. This means that these men and women cannot have sex before they reach that age. Now we all know that hormones etc kick in around puberty which is way before 30. So what is the solution?
“Control yourself.” Okay, yes, but that’s not so easy. Plus we can see that it is impossible for many to control themselves since sexual frustration is causing all sorts of social problems, such as sexual harassment.
This is where reformists (and I :D) would argue that the Qur’an needs to be contextualized. When the Qur’an was revealed, people were getting married at puberty, or at least by the time they were 20. So everything was fine and they could have sex when their hormones kicked in. This isn’t the case anymore, so what is the solution?
This is where traditionalists will get really angry and scream about humans trying to change the Qur’an (as if their own interpretations haven’t done the same thing). But how do we deal with social problems such as sexual frustration? If the age of marriage goes up to 40, do we really expect people to not have sex before they turn 40? And I mean just from a biological point of view, that seem ridiculous.
What do you all think?