A question that has always interested me is how much I would expose my kids to Islam/religion in general (assuming I have kids). Growing up with a Muslim dad and an agnostic (born Catholic) mum gave very interesting experiences with religion. I wasn’t brought up to be either Muslim, Christian or agnostic. I do remember learning how to pray Islamically at some point, although I was never told to pray; and we always celebrated Christmas, Eid, and all the other holidays (although they were more about presents than spirituality, haha).
I think that being brought up that way has been one of the best things that could have happened to me. It gave me much-needed clarity with regards to religion, and it also gave me the space to define religion/God/life the way I wanted to. Many of my friends were told to pray, fast, etc and thus it became a habit for them. Later it was difficult for them to stop because they felt guilty. For me that was never the case: when I began thinking about God and religion, I really felt like I was making a conscious choice (although of course we don’t make choices that are ever 100% “free”). Because I felt like it was a choice, I never feel like I’m being constrained/controlled or that I’m giving up something.
I definitely think I would bring up my kids the same way. Of course it is impossible to not discuss religion at all, but I also don’t think I would tell them they should pray, or fast, or anything else. I really think rituals can only be meaningful when they’re coming from a place of freedom and choice.